I’ve learned the stress of needing to be perfect - eat the perfect food 100% of the time, be the perfect wife, mother, business woman etc, is the most toxic and damaging thing that we can do to our bodies and our minds.
So if your after one of those blogs that looks like it popped right out of a 'Mother and Baby' magazine your in the wrong place. I like to keep things real and more than likely you'll find me sitting at my paint covered kitchen table with a child around my neck or on my boob.😜
Before the connected, fun, unschooling mamma, there was an uptight, highly strung, businesswoman completely conflicted about the kind of person and parent she wanted to be,
who gauged her worthiness, by her busy-ness.
A dedicated people pleaser, overachiever and perfectionist who had no idea who she truly was, doing everything for the prestige, the praise or the pat on the back.
I was the picture of success on the outside, but on the inside, I was anxious and DESPERATE for approval.
The anxiety and pressure that traveled with me from childhood into my late twenties was a toxic cocktail. I had clinical depression and anxiety, I was exhausted, had constant headaches and though I didn't know this at the time, my fertility was waining.
While my crazy busy corporate and business days saw me Coaching leaders in the finance industry, building and running skate parks and coaching other women in business, I could never have been prepared for the life-changing impact of motherhood….…It’s funny how our children shine a light on all of our stuff……..well at least that's how my integrative health journey was rekindled.
With multiple miscarriages most likely due to poor egg quality (my AMH levels were less than 1, meaning I was at the end of my egg supply and well, your body throws out all the good eggs first doesn’t it, and then your left with the dodgy's at the end apparently) and an IVF prognosis, I decided to take matters in to my own hands. I knew I wanted to approach this naturally in a way that was kind to my body.
I chose lowering the toxicity of my environment (my home and body products mostly), acupuncture, chiropractic, and food as medicine to conceive our 2nd, after our first apparently miracle baby. Though we went through heartbreak, we went on to have 3 beautiful and healthy children naturally.
Our lesson in stress management and lifestyle management came later, when the incredibly stressful and busy lifestyle and businesses we created took their toll on our physical and mental health as well as our family's wellbeing. It was pretty brutal and our marriage and our little family suffered with 2 strung out, exhausted and barely functioning parents to lead the way.
A culmination of events meant we lost almost everything and it was the biggest blessing we could have received. We had to start over.......and we choose to build something life-affirming, instead of life destroying.
We committed to creating a lifestyle that supported our entire wellbeing, not just our physical health. That meant we could give our children our very best and allow them to develop into their very best, that meant we could pursue our passions and make an impact, with them right beside us that meant we could live life together, joyfully, connected and well for as long as possible.
All of the non-negotiables that had kept us stuck in our old, sick lifestyle became negotiable. We looked around and we saw choice, where previously we felt trapped in our circumstances. The possibilities became endless- and still are!
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